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Daily Positive Thoughts: January 12, 2014: Good Wishes

 

 

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Tulip Fields, Amsterdam, Netherlands

 

 

By planting seeds of peace deep in the heart, you create a garden of good wishes.

 

 

Adjusting

 

Each day we face new situations - nothing remains the same. When we
learn to adapt we are happy, whatever the situation may be. If we don't
think too much we are able to experience the pleasure of adjusting
ourselves. Where we have a rigid nature, we will not be happy. When
things change demanding us to adapt and adjust, we need to make sure
that we enjoy that too. We need not ask what happened or why it
happened, but just enjoy the change which has something new to teach.

 

 

 

Negative Control And Positive Influence


The power of influence in relationships is extraordinary, but it practically disappears when we try to exercise control and force. 

You can influence anyone positively in many ways: 
* encouraging,
* sharing,
* listening, 
* communicating in the right way.
 

In 'negative control' we generate stress, frustration and anger. In 'positive influence' the energy flows in a relaxed way with harmony and is not threatening, respecting each one for their specialty and allowing each one to be as they are. 

In order to influence positively we need the power of discrimination and judgement in relation to what to say and what to do e.g. when you believe that the other person is the problem; generally the problem is not what others say or do, but rather how you perceive them. The way that you judge is what creates your negative feelings about them. We have the choice to perceive others as a threat, as a problem, or as an opportunity; an opportunity for learning, for change, for dialogue and understanding. We can choose to have compassion (kindness); to feel that the other is a problem indicates a lack of compassion.

 

 

Soul Sustenance

 

Important Understandings on Reincarnation (Part 1) 

1. The soul has a separate identity from any of the bodies it adopts.

2. The human soul does not take a birth/body of any animal species, just as a lemon seed does not grow into a mango tree. The human soul always takes a human body e.g. if the soul of a cow was to take the birth of a human, wouldn't it carrysanskars of performing all actions like a cow into its human birth – how would it then function through the human body.

3. The various lives or births of a soul are like different episodes of a television serial, all different, yet connected with each other.

4. The cycle of action and reaction is never-ending. The soul must continue to play its entire role until all it has received the fruits for all its actions. This may require more than one body.

(To be continued tomorrow …)

 

 

 

Message for the day 

 

To finish excuses is to take up full responsibility.

Expression: To take up responsibility means to be ready to bear the consequences of the action done. The one who is responsible will never give excuses, but will be able to take the responsibility of correcting the situation. Under all circumstances, such a person will be able to give his best without situations hindering his output.

Experience: When I am responsible, it is not important for me why a mistake happened, but it is more important for me to find a method so that I am able to rectify what has gone wrong.  So when I am responsible I am neither worried nor concerned too much for whatever has happened.  On the other hand I am able work with lightness to improve the situation. 

 




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How the Cinderellas of today are deluded by The Myth of Prince Charming


   Shaikh Ahmed Deedat's Biography informs us  that he was rejected by 32 families in his youthful days because he was not 'so rich'. Later on, many rich, famous girls would have been ready to marry the famous Deedat of 50 years but nobody was ready to marry the struggling Deedat of 20. The lady he married 'Hawa' was a common girl who could not understand English yet she sat in the front rows during all the Deedat talks and looked at her husband with a keen interest. Allah provided her a lot of  honor and also financial comforts through her husband. 
 
     Let me share an interesting and an analytical conversation that I witnessed during a marriage discussion. Here it went :
The Guardian of the Girl : So what is the boy doing?
 
The Guardian of the Boy :  No he didn't complete  his graduation but the family has a huge business
 
The Guardian of the Girl : Yes, but what is the boy doing?
 
The Guardian of the Boy : He helps the family business
 
The Guardian of the Girl : Yes but what is the boy doing? Is he into selling the goods or purchasing in-charge of the goods or does he sees the accounts? How does he help the family business ?
 
The Guardian of the Boy : He visits the business and sees everything.
 
The Guardian of the girl concluded that "the boy is not himself rich but he is the son of a rich man. He  may not be capable of doing anything on his own except that he spends his dad's money". The proposal was refused. It was a wise decision.
 
   Many parents prefer to give their daughters to  religious  boys who are also rich. They reason that it is for the  financial security. . When it comes to financial security, most of us have misunderstood the term 'richness'.  Many of us think that if the boy is rich, then our daughter will be happily settled. One of the most common misconceptions about rich people is that they are happy and money solves most of their problems.
 
    One my friend is from middle class and has a beautiful sister. Some rich lady spotted her in one of the marriages and pursued her till she got her married to her rich son. People wondered aloud how the girl was 'very lucky' to have the beautiful looks. But in few months the picture was cleared. The boy's family was rich but the boy was not into richness when it came to earnings. The family had lots of financial feuds among its members. Violent dinners and late night loud quarrels were a regular routine and the girl discovered that nothing was rich except the large house and the expensive furniture.
 
     Finally in a few years the family disintegrated and the property was shared. What came in the hands of this girl and her husband was a small apartment with no business. The 'Rich boy' did not have a top formal education that could land him at a good place for a job. He did not have any skills that could make him self employed. He did not know how to do business because he did never learn. He underwent depression as he had never seen hardships in life.
 
    A large number of 'Cinderella Syndrome girls' dream for a Prince perfect. Perfection in looks, smart in approach and rich in possession are their dream sketches of the boy. So they are fussy. Despite the fact that they themselves come from a middle class background they refuse proposals from boys who earn more than the girls' father. One of the rich family I know, got their daughter married to a middle class educated boy who was earning Ten Thousand Indian Rupees, but he was disciplined, well mannered and educated with a fondness of Deen too. Today he earns more than two lac Indian Rupees.
 
    There are plenty of middle class rugged boys who quest for halal income. They hang in crowded local trains; they are sweaty while waiting in bus queues. They cannot afford Pizzas and burgers every day but they are content with simple home food. They may not be too rich but they have undergone the richness of life. They are rich in manners. They are educated and disciplined even in monetary issues. They have tasted their own earnings. They do not blow away their money to expensive unwanted electronic gadgets and cinema theatres. They contribute to the parents' expenses from whatever they earn. In their mid twenties, they have wisdom of a matured man. They may not wear branded dresses and shoes but they carry a confident personality. They do not fail to attend religious sermons and enjoy their life within the Islamic boundaries. At the age of 25 if a young man is earning around twenty five thousand Indian Rupees, he has a bright prospectus as passing years will bring him more experience and better job opportunities.  
 
   Fortunately for our daughters, these types of boys are in large numbers but unfortunately they don't appear richer and smarter on the bench mark of the Cinderellas and Snow Whites so they are disqualified even before they are interviewed. Meanwhile the hunt for the mythological Prince charming goes on as the biodatas of young men are flapped pages after pages in the matrimonial centers and girls remain unmarried for long  while waiting for a 'Mr Right'. This is an ugly reality of our community and it is in plenty.
 
Author Nisaar Nadiadwala can be responded at nisaar_yusuf@yahoo.com

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