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Ananda was troubled. His thoughts were heavy. He had been thinking about this person nonstop for many months now. Ananda was "bewitched" by her sweet ways. The way she expressed herself. Her looks. Her voice. Her sweet inner self. Everything!
A thought came and then a feeling made that thought stronger. It was an emotion.
Ananda felt "alive," out of the routine.
That emotion became a dependency after a few weeks. Ananda was daydreaming about her. He was making "romantic gateways" in his mind. Ananda was feeling good . He thought that she also liked him. He was waiting for the "right moment," to let her know; but he was enjoying the sensation now as it was.
A few days later, Ananda found out something about her. Something that he didn't expect, which changed the impeccable vision he had of her: He thought she was very special! :-)
Ananda couldn't believe it. His "castle of thoughts" collapsed. A thought came, then he felt this energy by his heart. It was an emotion wanting to come out. That emotion invaded his being and due to his strong feelings; Ananda started to cry…. Ananda's day changed from a sunny morning into the darkest horror story.
But then a few hour later, Ananda had more information about this person. It was good news! What he thought before wasn't 100% accurate. But only 75%! Ananda saw how the night changed into the daylight in his life….one more time, he was a "happy go lucky" guy. The smile was in his lips again, "because of her."
In the "normal" world that is what is known as "falling in love."
The above story could be changed in many ways. The main topic to perceive is how we become emotionally dependent on someone or something. We give our happiness into the hands of someone.
As long as we are dependent on something outside ourselves, our well being will fluctuate.
That dependency can manifest itself in many ways; the underlying factor is that our thoughts are "crying" for that "high."
When our minds dictate our mood, we will be lost in the unsettled world of thought and emotions.
Ananda went to the nearest park early in the morning. That park had a Lake and the Sun was just starting to come out. As Ananda looked at the lake, he perceived that his thoughts and emotions as the ripples in the lake. More emotions, more ripples. With so many ripples going on, Ananda wasn't able to look at the reflection of himself in that lake. He couldn't know himself with too much inner turbulence.
To see that reflection in that lake, would have been a pathetic picture of an otherwise decent looking guy, with the saddest expression in his face.
All the trouble was in his own mind. A belief.
Ananda looked at the lake, sitting there without thinking about anything in particular. His mind was taken by just looking at the dance of ripples under the Sunlight of the new day. Then, he perceived a new sensation: The beauty of something inside him like a presence or a "stable being," not watching anything; just being there. It felt like a strong support coming from inside. As a matter of fact, that "being" was taking over the whole scene of the lake , the sun and Ananda; so there were not 3 things but one going and slowly dissolving into none. Nothing but awareness.
As soon as Ananda realized of this, then his thoughts started to come out again as an everlasting thread of senseless pictures.
Ananda realized that as long as he was aware of this inner being, his thoughts wouldn't bother him. Greater awareness, less thoughts.
Most important, Ananda was able to feel for the first time the meaning of SERENITY, without going to the dictionary to look up that word and try to act it because of hearing that to "be serene" is "good."
In that serenity, the ripples of his mind subdue. In that serenity the bothersome pains near his heart which were bottle up emotions, could not be felt.
Ananda realized that his thoughts were not "real." He was allowing himself to "daydream" about something who had overpowered him due to his need for company and proximity with another person.
Once there is realization, then there is a "cure."
The important aspect is to realize that without that inner serenity, which some call peace, others call God and yet others call, spirit; without "that" there is no possibility of experiencing self –fulfillment and then, we will always be dependent.
That experience of serenity needs to be constant so there is nothing else that could overtake it, for anything else are just accessories coming from the outside. That is the "work," the effort.
Love is sharing. That could only appear once this peace is constant. That peace is not dependent on anyone but ourselves.
Once we know that peace, that serenity and make it constant in ourselves, there will be automatic self transformation; then we can share it, give to the world; that is, for the first time we can know what love is. Not before.
When we know inner peace, we know love.
 
Your Divine Friend
BK.DR.Satyanarayan
psychology and spiritual counselor 
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Changwe River, Zambia
 
Weaknesses are contagious.
The more you look for defects in others, the more you will become affected. Weaknesses are contagious.
                        
 
Being positive does bring gains to the self and this in itself can
create or promote (assist) change. Any individual change will have a
positive impact on others around us in the workplace, including
clients, colleagues and the broader organization.

Examples of some specific benefits of positivity at the workplace
are:
1. Health and effectiveness at work – having more energy, better
workload management.
2. Relationships with clients and subordinates – able to listen more
receptively (openly) and provide a sense of hope to them.
3. Relationships with colleagues – more open to collaborating
(working together) on problem solving.
 
 
          The Relationship between Anger And Attachment (cont.)
 

Attachment is a negative attraction that we succumb to, inside our consciousness, regularly and it gives rise to ego, which in turn is the root cause of all suffering. Suffering, in turn, is experienced at an emotional level through the various different forms of anger. We need to realize this phenomenon very deeply because this happens many a times in each day of our lives inside our consciousness. Then we can see exactly from where our anger arises and we can correct it.

So if we don't want to suffer from anger, the solution is simple - we don't get attached to anything or anyone, to any expectation, any particular desired result. Sounds difficult at first, but the same solution can be put in a way that would seem easier to achieve, we don't lose our spiritual identity or individuality in something we are not, in anything or anyone that is physical. That does not mean we shouldn't possess any material objects and not experience joy by using them. It also does not mean we start remaining aloof from people that we love. Nor does it mean we don't have goals and ambitions at the workplace etc. We do. But our relationship with them changes. Our relationship becomes one of detachment and not of attachment. And what is a relationship of detachment? Detachment means that we possess all of them but we are no longer dependent on any of them, for our peace, contentment and happiness. We choose to be peaceful, content and joyful irrespective of whether they are there with us or not. So when cars get banged into (which can happen at times) and when people close to us are harmed or insulted or they leave or are separated from us due to any other reason (which is also bound to happen) or when jobs are lost (which is inevitable), we don't react angrily and suffer as a result. We have realized everything in life comes and goes; everything is born and comes to an end. We also realize that every process taking place in life is unpredictable and not always controllable, and must end. Things do and will happen. We know this is a reality. Every time we get angry it means we are having an argument with this reality of life.
 
 
 
Soul Sustenance


The Power Of Thought

Thought has been proven to be a powerful yet non-physical "energy", which can influence other souls and also matter. On a limited scale, there are the experiments with ESP (extrasensory perception) and mental telepathy. On a more sensational level, some use the power of thought to such an extent that steel objects can be bent and heavy objects moved without any physical help. In the case of telepathy, communication over thousands of miles is possible in an instant when two souls are "tuned" to each other's mental "wavelength", as if thought-broadcasting and receiving is some sort of subtle (non-physical) radio system. Evil powers also invoke the power of thought, although for impure or egoistic motives and gains. Thought can be regarded as the energy or subtle force which links the soul to physical matter through the soul's connection with the body.


Message for the day


The one who is able to discriminate well is able to bring about real benefit.

Expression: Everyone naturally works for the benefit of the self and others. But the one who discriminates well is able to understand the other person's need and give accordingly. So whatever is done naturally brings benefit for others and also for the self.

Experience: When I am able to bring benefit for the right person at the right time with the right thing, I am able to win the trust of the other person. I expect nothing in return, but have the satisfaction of helping at the right time.
 

 
Your Divine Friend
BK.DR.Satyanarayan
psychology and spiritual counselor 
worldprince1@gmail.com


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 `Sharton pe mohabbat nahi hoti.`
Aaj hum unhe bewafa bata kar aaye hai,
Unke khaton ko pani mein bahakar aaye hai,
Koi nikal kar paadh na le unhe,
Isliye pani mein bhi aag lagake aaye hai
 
Jane kis dorse badhe hm ki khichte chale gaye,
Jane kon si manjil k paas he hm ki fisalte chale gaye,
Jane kiske pyaar me khogaye ki hm khudko bhulte chale gaye
 
Dil toot jata hai par khanak nahi hoti,
 har dhadkan roti hai par palak nahi roti,
 
mohabbat naam hai khuda ki bandagi ka,
jo sharton  pe chale woh mohabbat nahi hoti.
 

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 21valDollLOVE-Puts-the-fun 
   21valDollLOVE-is221valDollLOVE-is1
Rose!

 
 

 
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Today's the day
People officially say
"I love you dear"
But you're not here.

How many times
And how many lines
Did we write each other
Professing our love to one another?

This year is no exception,
I have no misconseptions.
Even though we're not together
My heart's with you forever.


We've been apart so long
And still we hear our song.
Like the stars in the sky
Some feelings never die.

You tell me that you love me
And I'm your destiny.
Well ... all I know
Is that I still want you so.

It's Valentine's day today!
So once again I'll say-
No matter who... no matter how far,
No matter what... Darlin'
My Love is Where You Are

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   21valDollLOVE-is2
Rose!

 

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Heal Past Hurts
by Jane Powell on November 30, 2010
"You were born with the capacity to believe."
You were born with a capacity for great courage, for trust in your surroundings and for faith in yourself. But something may have happened along the way that changed this positive capacity.
If you were criticized at an early age and denied encouragement by those you trusted you could learn to believe that something was wrong with you. Over time, such beliefs may appear as the absolute truth – a definition of your identity.
Guess what? It's simply not true! You are perfect and it's time to act that way. As hard as it may be to regain your self-esteem, you can forget and forgive what happened when you were young. You can regain the courage, trust and faith that are your birthright, by recognizing that, although youthful disillusionment can't be changed, it can be overcome.

Approaching Each Day
I woke up early today, excited over all I get to do before the clock strikes midnight. My job is to choose what kind of day I am going to have.
Today I can complain because the weather is rainy or I can be thankful that the grass is getting watered for free.
Today I can feel sad that I don't have more money or I can be glad that my finances encourage me to plan my purchases wisely and guide me away from waste.
Today I can grumble about my health or I can rejoice that I am alive.
Today I can lament over all that my parents didn't give me when I was growing up or I can feel grateful that they allowed me to be born.
Today I can cry because roses have thorns or I can celebrate that thorns have roses.
Today I can mourn my lack of friends or I can excitedly embark upon a quest to discover new job relationships.
Today I can whine because I have to go to work or I can shout for joy because I have a job to go to!
Today I can complain because I have to go to school or eagerly open my mind and fill it with knowledge and adventure.
Today I can dejectedly murmur because I have housework to do or I can feel grateful for shelter for my mind, body and soul.
Today stretches ahead of me, waiting to be shaped, and here I am, the sculptor who gets to do the shaping. What today will be like is up to me. And I shall decide what kind of day I shall have!
How will you live this day?
Somewhere out past where you're now comfortable, there's a pleasant surprise. Beyond what you already know you can do, there are exciting and fulfilling and new things you'll be able to do.
There's a very short distance between what you think you can do and what you don't think you can do. That distance is the size of just one thought.
Once you decide that it is possible for you, it is possible for you. Once you have the thought that it can be done, it can be done.
The world you experience is contained within the world you expect to experience. Expect more, and suddenly a whole new set of possibilities will open up to you.
Ask yourself what you would like to be able to expect. Then go ahead and bring your expectations in line with your desires.
Each day is an opportunity to grow beyond yourself while at the same time more fully expressing your authentic self. Touch your highest vision, expect it to happen, and you'll surely see your way there.
Ralph Marston
 
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Rose!

 
 
 
 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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