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"Are you avoiding conflict?" Do you avoid speaking your mind because you don't want to rock the boat? Do you feel it's just easier to avoid conflict? When you don't take initiative and express your own wants and needs, others make decisions for you – and chances are, they won't always make the decisions you want! If this goes on long enough, you will start to feel misunderstood or taken for granted. Anger and resentment will grow and you'll eventually erupt. You are the only one who can decide to change this behavior! Next time you're asked what you want, don't rush to say you don't care. Stop and ask yourself, "What do I want?" Then, share it with conviction. ©Jane Powell   Praise yourself Take full responsibility for your life. Stop blaming others. See yourself as the cause of what happens to you. Do things you like to do. Don't stay in a job you don't like. Participate in life at the highest level you can. Give yourself the simple pleasures of life abundantly. Wear clothes you feel good in, get a massage etc. Watch what you say. Avoid self put-downs. Stop being critical of yourself and others. Take care of your body. Give it exercise and good food. Be willing to create a life-style that generates and nourishes self-esteem. Associate with others with high esteem. Acknowledge yourself frequently. Keep a diary of your successes and accomplishments. Avoid comparing yourself with others. Remember that it's who we are, not what we do, that's important Give yourself permission to do nothing periodically. Schedule time by yourself. Frequently take deep breaths. Discover the benefit and pleasure of breathing fully. Eat first class frequently. Don't look at the right side of the menu. Stop trying to change others. Focus your attention on being the way you want others to be. Look into a mirror regularly and say "I love you, I really love you". Stop feeling guilty and saying "I'm sorry". See mistakes as valuable lessons and avoid judging yourself. Consciously generate positive thoughts and feelings of self-love in place of old thoughts of inadequacy. Be willing to laugh at yourself and at life. Stop taking yourself so seriously. Accept compliments from others without embarrassment. Don't invalidate their positive thoughts and feelings about you. Be kind to your mind. Don't hate yourself for having negative thoughts. Gently change your thoughts. Keep your awareness and your thoughts focussed in present time instead of living in the past or future. Acknowledge others frequently. Tell them what you like and appreciate in them. Invest money in yourself. Go to seminars, workshops and courses that develop your talents. Make a list of 10 things you love doing and do them frequently. Treat yourself as you would treat someone you really loved. Praise yourself.     The long haul Instant results are not always the best results. Have a little patience, and you can greatly expand your possibilities. If your desires were always fulfilled immediately, you would have nothing to look forward to. You would miss out on the joy of anticipation. There are some good things you can have instantly. There are many, many more good and valuable things that will take time. You deserve more than mere instant gratification. Be willing to take the time, and to put in the effort, and give yourself access to life's greatest rewards. Value that arrives in an instant is probably going to be gone in an instant. Value that takes time and commitment to create will enrich your life far into the future. Dream, plan, prepare and persist in your efforts for the long haul. The more time and effort you give, the more richness you can achieve. Ralph Marston