«*» RUKHSANA«*» A Positive Talk

 A man lost his control while driving through the countryside. As he tried to reach for the map, he accidentally drove off the road into a ditch (a long narrow open channel road dug in to the ground usually at the side of road or field). Though he was not injured, his car was stuck deep in the mud. Therefore, the man walked to a nearby farm to ask for help.

"Warwick (a name of a mule) can get you out of that ditch," said the farmer, pointing to an old mule standing in a field. The man looked at the decrepit old mule and looked at the farmer who just stood there repeating, "Yep, old Warwick can do this job…?" The man figured he had nothing to lose. The two men and the mule made their way back to the ditch. The farmer hitched the mule to the car. With a snap of the reins, he shouted, "Pull, Fred! Pull, Jack! Pull, Ted! Pull, Warwick!"

And the mule pulled that car right out of the ditch.

The man was amazed. He thanked the farmer, patted the mule, and asked, "Why did you call out all of those 3 names before you called Warwick?"

The farmer grinned and said, "Old Warwick is just about blind. As long as he believes he's part of a team, he doesn't mind pulling."

Moral of the Story is:

Keep your words positive, because your words become your actions.

Keep your actions positive, because your actions become your habits.

Keep your habits positive, because your habits become your lifestyle.

Keep your lifestyle positive, because your lifestyle becomes your destiny.

If our parents set a lifetime of programming with one wrong statement, imagine the kind of programming you are doing on a daily basis with your own internal dialogue. Here is a list of Toxic Vocabulary words.

Notice when you or other people use them.

• Using the Word BUT: Negates any words that are stated before it.
• In the similar way: TRY: Presupposes failure.
• IF: Presupposes that you may not.
• MIGHT: It does nothing definite. It leaves options for your listener.
• WOULD HAVE: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen.
• SHOULD HAVE: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen (and implies guilt.)
• COULD HAVE: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen but the person tries to take credit as if it did happen.
• CAN'T/DON'T: These words force the listener to focus on exactly the opposite of what you want. This is a classic mistake that parents and coaches make without knowing the damage of this linguistic error.

Examples:

• Toxic phrase: If you yell, "Don't drop the ball!"
• It Likely results, the chances of dropping the ball are more: And he Drops the ball.
• Better language: "Catch the ball!"
• Toxic phrase: "You shouldn't watch so much television."
• Likely result: The person eschew you and he will continue to Watch more television.

Allah (SWT) the Exalted says in Noble Qur'an: "O you who believe! Be careful of (your duty to) Allah and speak the (Truth) right word." (33:70)